I think every girl either has a friend like this girl or is this girl in She Walks On. For me, she’s a bunch of girls I have met in my life rolled into one. And I suppose myself at times, too.
One of my favorite questions to ask people, especially underclassman, is, “So, what do you want to be when you grow up?”
I like this question for a few reasons:
1. It’s phrased in a way that is playful, and sets a casual tone.
2. It shows interest in that person, which always makes them more comfortable to share.
3. Their answer helps you understand them better as you continue getting to know them, and in the least creepy way, as you observe them.
4. You always find out a little bit more than what you asked. For example, “I want to be a ____ so I hope to go to grad school for ______.” “Any ideas where you want to go to grad school?” “Anywhere that is far away. I want to get out of_____.” “Have you been there your entire life?” “Yes, and I didn’t have a great experience.”
So, you know what they want to do with their life, but now you also know a little about their past.
In my almost-25-years of living, I feel like I have met every single “type of girl.” The overly insecure, the hard-worker, the super grounded, the self-loather, the sheltered, the southern belle, the leader, the follower, the holy, the sinner, etc. I’ve encountered them all, and I love them all. Life is way more fun when you have a diverse group of friends.
I have a lot of trouble writing about myself, probably because I find myself to be so boring. So naturally, if I’m remotely involved in a situation with a friend, or observing one, sometimes I find inspiration.
Ah, the dangers of being friends with a songwriter. (Not to mention the dangers of dating one!)
I wrote this song while I was in college, during a time when a lot of my friends (from college and from home) were going through some interesting seasons.
“A few feet from her doorstep she says, “Where do I go from here?” She’s already lost, but finding her way is what she fears.”
I knew my friends from home inside and out, but what’s unique about college friendships is that you get to know them very quickly, and when you encounter someone broken, there is only so much time to try and mend them.
As I watched some of these girls, I came to the realization that they had time to figure things out. The relationships they were in, the major they wanted to study, their faith…they all had time, and that brought me comfort. Now looking back on those times, I see how much those girls have grown and how those seasons helped shape who they are today.
“So she walks on with no footsteps to guide her, finding beauty in the journey as she walks on.”
Sometimes we all just need to be still, and wait on our seasons to shape us. Sometimes we need to let our loved ones do the same.
I feel like watching our friends grow must be a small taste at what parenting must feel like. I love seeing the journeys my friends have taken, and how they have grown up over the years. Even myself, I am glad I had time to walk on too.
Perhaps you are reading finding yourself in one of these seasons currently. That’s awesome. I’m excited for you for when you look back on this time!